Is it possible for an international/interracial marraige to be successful? "In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, til' death do us part" - is it real or fantasy?
In Japan we have heard many sad stories of children suffering from broken international/interracial marraiges between Japanese women and western men. Is there a more fundemental problem? Are these marraiges of convenience or status enhancers, easy paths to a visa or an exciting life outside the tight confines of family; or are they real? If real, what is the glue that binds?
A Louisiana Justice of the Peace just resigned in America because of the flack he experienced for denying a marraige license to a multi-racial couple. Why would he do that in today's society? Why indeed. His reason: he was concerned the children would suffer the slings and arrows of social stigma. Perhaps an unreasonable fear in America but certainly not in Japan.
Why would anyone put themselves through marrying someone when they have no common ground to stand on and must confront an 'alien' culture, language and body habits 24/7? Love? What is love and how long does it last? Is it infatuation? Lust? A common goal in life - ticket out (or in)?
When Tevye asked his wife Golde, "Do you love me?", what did she say?
She thought the question was foolish, but she eventually admitted that, after 25 years of living and struggling together and raising five daughters, she did. How many today, inter anything or not, concider before their wedding day where they will be in twenty five years?
Do you love me?
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